To me, being a Yes parent DOESN'T mean allowing your child to do whatever they want. Of course, I wouldn't allow my daughter to stick her hand in a fire, or think that it's okay to hit her dad, or do anything else that is going to cause her or someone else emotional or physical harm.
To me, being a Yes parent DOES mean giving my child an environment to live in that allows me to limit my use of the word "no". On the simple level, it means making the environment safe - outlet covers, gates in front of the fireplace, non-toxic plants in the garden. On a play level, it means providing materials that Olive can manipulate as she pleases, without me telling her, "No Olive, don't do that" or "No Olive, don't push that down". If I provide her with the proper materials, I will give myself the opportunity to say, "Yes Olive, you can push it that way" or "Yes Olive, that can go there".
To be honest, I can't always be a Yes parent as much as I would like to. But, I try my hardest to create situations and an environment for Olive that will allow me to say yes as much as possible. I thought that I'd look through some of my pictures to find examples of myself being a Yes parent. I think I found some good ones. And although I've been lacking in inspiration lately, I hope you find some inspiration through these pictures and that it leads you to put a little more Yes into your life.
|Yes Olive, you stick you hand into the pumpkin....or just stare at it for a minute, make a gagging sound, and decide you don't want to touch it.|
|Yes Olive, you can squeeze the berries on that plant to see how they pop and squish in your fingers.|
|Yes Olive, you can choose what you want to eat. Yes Olive, you can dump it out all over on your tray 30 seconds later, mix it up, and still eat it.|
|Yes Olive, you can try it that way so you can figure out that the stairs are probably easier.|
|Yes Olive, you can feed Ming Ming the duck some string cheese.|
|Yes Olive, you can be silly and just be yourself - all the time.|
|Yes Olive, you can dig in that dirt.|
|Yes Olive, you can eat that tomato. Yes Olive, you can pick a green one to realize that it's not ready and way too sour.|
|Yes Olive, you can pet that goat and even give him a kiss if you want.|
|Yes Olive, you can climb that wall and I won't even stand right near you.|
|Yes Olive, you can decorate your body and diaper with paint. |